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Have you ever realized that the morning after something bad happens is somewhat harder than the day it actually occurred? It’s that split second where you’re shaking off remnants of that last dream, only to process the thoughts from yesterday, all over again. It’s in that moment you think to yourself, “wow, that actually happened, this is real life.” The news of Kobe Bryant’s passing is simply unreal, I don’t think there’s any better word to describe it. Honestly, you don’t have to be a basketball fanatic to understand what an icon Kobe Bryant truly was. Your 24th birthday is your “Kobe year,” when you’d shoot a paper ball into a garbage bin, you’d shout Kobe! I think that’s why it feels like for a split second the world has stopped. Just the other day there was a viral meme going around of him talking sports, court-side, with his daughter. Just the other day he was tweeting and congratulating Lebron James on breaking his personal basketball record. And in the blink of an eye, life reminds you that when we make plans, God laughs. It's just so tremendously sad and I can't help but feel this overwhelming gloom, not because I was a go-hard NBA fan but, simply because a truly talented spirit is gone, within a split second, along with his daughter who dreamed to upkeep his legacy, and it has truly rocked our worlds, because it's a harsh reminder of how fragile life is.
I read a quote that said, “those who died yesterday had plans for this morning. Those who died this morning, had plans for tonight,” and I wanted to ask you all, how many times have you taken your life for granted? Better yet, how many times have you taken the presence of those around you, for granted? How often do you postpone things because you think there will always be another time, another moment, another opportunity? A thought I try to instill in anyone willing to listen to me, is that life is short. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had where I’ve literally told people we aren’t guaranteed tomorrow, we don’t even know if we’re guaranteed today. If you’re one of my close friends, you can probably attest to how annoying I can be with this sentiment. This is why it’s so important to me to love those around me as much as I can. To celebrate life as much as I can. To simply live in the moment, as much as I can. I tell those closest to me I love them on a daily basis, because they are amazing and should always be reminded of that. It’s so important to start living life with the thought that at any given moment, your life can change forever. It sadly takes seeing someone lose their life in a split second, doing something that was considered routine to them, just to put things in perspective. We think death is inevitable when you’re old, or sick, but it never crosses our mind how sudden it truly can be. We’re always thinking about the future, or our next move, but are we really appreciating the right now? You think today sucks, but do you ever think how many people would swap their worst day for yours? I’m not saying you shouldn’t be sad because someone has it worse, but how badly would you be willing to swap one of your really tragic days for a day where you were just slightly inconvenienced?
I urge everyone reading this to just take a moment to reflect on this thought, are you being the best possible version of yourself? When I say that, I don’t just mean career wise, I mean as a human being. Are you working towards leaving a positive footprint on the world? Are you having conversations that elevate and encourage others? If you’re not, you’re doing it all wrong. Do the people around you know they are loved by you? Or do you live with the thought that they should already know you love them? I think it’s important to remind those who matter to you, how important they are to you. I’m not talking about grand gestures or expensive gifts. A simple “I love you”, “I’m thankful for you”, “thank you for existing”, goes a long way. Life is fleeting, our days are numbered, and tomorrow is never promised, so make sure you are leading a life where you show gratitude for the gift of being alive, every day. Let go of the bitterness, the pettiness, the bickering from yesterday if it won’t matter a few years from now, or even tomorrow.
This is usually where I say, I hope you guys have a great day, and while I do hope that, I totally understand if you’re feeling a little gloomy today. Sending lots of love and positive vibes your way.